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The Importance of the Early Years |
| The following is a report on the seminar
held in London on January 15th 2005 |
| The Importance of the Early Years - a seminar
for those involved in the lives of young children |
The Montessori Society AMI (UK) were delighted to be
hosts to Dr. Silvana Montanaro in January this year at
a seminar for new and prospective parents. It was wonderful
to see so many pregnant mothers and fathers so eager to
set out with their children on the right path!
The following is a brief taster of the principal issues
that Dr. Montanaro covered. She suggested that if parents
could focus on getting it right in these particular areas
then they would be giving their child the best possible
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The child should not be separated from the mother
at birth or at any time during the first weeks of life.
Dr Montanaro talked about the first 4-6 weeks of the child's
life as being a symbiotic period when it is beneficial
to both child and mother for the child to stay close to
the mother. For the child, the mother is his (or her)
only point of reference when he comes out of the womb
and he needs to stay close until he becomes oriented to
his new world. There is a special bond between child and
mother that is like a magnetic bond that should not be
broken. The mother should hold the baby close to her body
and dress, bathe and feed him herself. The child is then
able to learn trust in his new environment because he
feels secure. In the home there should be a special place
for dressing, a place for sleeping and a place for feeding
and the child should ideally be present with the mother
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The child should have freedom of movement.
Many new-born babies are swaddled and placed in a cradle
or basket so that they are not able to move, in an attempt
to mimic the safe and sheltered environment of the womb.
However, even in the womb the child is free to move. Dr
Montanaro said the greatest gift that the mother can give
to the child is to put him on the floor on a mat that
allows free movement. The baby should not be cooped up
- he must be free to move. Ideally, at night he should
sleep on a low bed on the floor with no bars. Even a very
small baby can slither from the bed onto the floor and
be set free to explore, using all of his senses. If we
can prepare the home by removing the things we don't want
the child to touch, when he starts to crawl he can then
explore, using all of his senses. When he can walk he
should be allowed to walk whenever possible rather than
being strapped into a push chair where he is prevented
from doing the very thing he has been working so hard
on for the first year of his life! |
Mothers should not put pacifiers (dummies) into the
child's mouth in the mistaken belief that it is providing
comfort.
At two months the child's larynx is in the right position
to make vowel sounds and by five months he can make consonant
and vowel sounds and is able to make those wonderful first
sounds that we interpret joyously as 'mama' and 'dada'.
If we put a pacifier in his mouth we will prevent him
from practising those early sounds and this could well
delay language development. By the same token, when a
child puts his thumb in his mouth he is also unable to
practise the sounds he should be making. If we can give
him something to do with his hands - like a ball that
is small enough for him to grasp in both hands, he will
be less interested in sucking his thumb. The child needs
'work' for his hands and this work with his hands will
help his mind to develop. As he grows and is able to walk
we should continue to give him work for his hands by letting
him join in the practical tasks of the household as often
as possible - laying the table, washing up, cutting fruit
etc - all of which he is longing to do! And during all
these activities, we should be constantly talking to the
child - not using baby language, but always the proper
words for things and in full sentences. At this age children
can learn 6 words a day if they are exposed to them and
by the time they are 6 they could know 13,000 words! |
Weaning should take place at the right time.
At 5 months the child is ready to start weaning and we
should begin to give him the food of his environment,
moving away from the food provided by the mother as it
no longer has everything he needs. He should be given
a spoon to use and a cup to drink from so that by the
time he is 9 months weaning is complete. He should not
be dependent on his mother's breast or worse still be
put to bed with a bottle for years and years. |
| The above is only a small part of the issues
that Dr Montanaro addressed. For those of you who would
like to read more on this fascinating subject, Dr Montanaro's
book 'Understanding the Human Being - The Importance of
the First Three years of Life' Is available from the Montessori
Society on www.montessori-uk.org.
Dr Montanaro will also be giving the Assistants to Infancy
Course starting at the Maria Montessori Institute in Hampstead
in March 2005. For further information please contact
the Maria Montessori Institute at
or by telephone on 0207 435 3646 |
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